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One week ago, I decided to plan our summer. Yes, summer break began pretty much the same day I decided to plan our summer. I do not always plan ahead. I enjoy being spontaneous. I also know that I will most certainly follow through on plans I make in advance. I want my boys to enjoy this summer.

The choice I make this summer is to take each Friday and reserve it especially for me and my three boys. This is difficult for me since I am a REALTOR and pride myself on being readily available to my clients. My family is more important to me.

I remember summers when I was a young girl. We spent many nights at the ball diamond watching my siblings or my dad play ball. I saved up pennies just to buy a piece of bubblegum. We would also spend a lot of time at state parks and go camping. We took swim lessons and played with friends. I almost forgot to mention day camp! We had mostly lazy summers and they were a blast!

Do you know that summer is only about 8 weeks long now? That’s how long we have until school starts again. Growing up, summer was 12 full weeks! This year, I will attempt to make the most of the time I have with my boys until they go back to school in the fall. I enjoy the “balanced calendar” schedule with two weeks for fall and spring break. It does make it more difficult to fit all the plans I dream of for my family during the summer.

I had fun researching activities and mostly inexpensive things to do this summer. Our Fridays will be more than full. I suspect we will expand our Friday fun into the weekend with my amazing husband, Tom. Dads like to have fun too. We will have a great summer.

Perhaps by sharing with you, I can help another family become spontaneous and have an amazing summer.


One of our favorite family traditions is attending our parish festival on opening night. This is a great way to see local bands, ride fair rides, and perhaps play some bingo!

2015 Parish Festival Listings


What better way to enjoy summer than to support the local community! Watch 4-H kids compete, see local talent perform, and view local art. All of this without going far from home!

Indiana County Fairs

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Although the fair begins after most schools start, it’s still a great summer tradition! Don’t miss the Circle City Sidewalk Stompers performances on the streets of the fair.

Year of the Farmer


There are outdoor concerts right here in Indy. Many are even FREE! One of my favorite locations is Mallow Run Winery where we bring a picnic dinner or grab a bite at the food trucks.

Indy Summer Concerts


Indianapolis is the home of over 25 splash and play parks. Inside and around Indy, you will find great choices for spending those hot summer days. That’s where we will be!

Indy with Kids


Take a day to go hiking and enjoy a picnic or spend several nights camping. If tent camping is not your idea of fun, there are parks that offer family cabins too!

IN State Parks & Reservoirs


Indiana has a couple of great theme parks – Holiday World and Indiana Beach. There are also two great parks just across the border: Kings Island and my teenage favorite, Kentucky Kingdom.

Midwest Theme Parks


I can’t talk about summer plans without mentioning one of our favorites. We have a lot of favorites. The dolphin show at the Indy Zoo is well done. The new orangutan exhibit is terrific!

Indianapolis Zoo


This is a great option for a rainy day, although it can get crowded. This is always a good back up option for us during the summer especially when friends and family come for a visit.

Children’s Museum


Get out the sun screen! There is nothing better than spending the day with family and friends on the White River. You can canoe or float lazily down the river. We like going to Blues Canoes!

Blue’s Canoe Livery

What are your plans? What would you add to my list? You will no doubt be able to enjoy having fun as a Hoosier this summer.

I ♥ Indiana!

When I fall in LOVE: 7 reasons not to love

“When I fall in love it will be forever, or I’ll never fall in love,” There’s just one problem with this Nat King Cole song. Like many love songs, or dare I say most love song lyrics today, this song refers to “falling in love” as if it is something that happens to us when the right person comes along.

Ever since I was a young girl, I thought people fell in love. As I grew into a young woman, I noticed that many people also fell “out of love.” When I struggled with my own feelings for a boyfriend, I would wonder, “Am I now in love? How will I know when I’m in love? When do I say “I love you”?”



I’d like you to meet my amazing and wonderful husband, Tom. We met in march of 1999. We dated just under 3 years and were married in March of 2002. I recall telling Tom “I love you” when we were dating because I thought I heard him say it first. Apparently he did not say it first, so I felt a little foolish. I can’t tell him I love him if he doesn’t first say it to me!

It wasn’t until about 7 years of marriage when I understood what love truly meant. We had noticed an increase in divorces in our friends’ marriages and in my siblings’ marriages. We couldn’t understand why. There were no warnings, no outcries to us for help. Each time seemed to surprise us and had us scratching our heads.

Sometimes we had the opportunity of listening to the “why” behind the divorce decisions. We heard that they were no longer “in love” or that it wasn’t really “love” in the first place. Or, “it wasn’t meant to be” because he/she wasn’t the “right person.” The more we heard, the more we became frustrated.


What if that happens to us? It seemed to happen suddenly without any alarm for so many of the people we know, so why should we think it couldn’t suddenly happen to us? We agreed to attend a weekend marriage retreat called Worldwide Marriage Encounter. In 2010, our marriage was drastically transformed. We learned that we were very much on the same path as so many other couples we knew. Why were we spared and why are we thriving in marriage today?

We chose to love! Love is a choice. It is an action verb. It is not simply something you stumble upon or fall out of. It is making the decision to put your spouse first. It is a decision to be un-selfish in your desires because you choose to put your spouse first. It is giving of yourself without expecting something in return.


Wow! That made a huge difference in our outlook on love. Just as I chose to say “I love you” to Tom because I thought we were in love, I continue to make the choice to love him. That’s it. When we decide, “okay, I think I love him, so I am going to tell him,” what we are really saying is “I choose to put you first because you matter to me.”

We went for so long living together in marriage but not always choosing to love. We became like roommates. We got along well and had fun together, but we were growing apart intimately. We avoided certain subjects of discussion, like finances, because we did not know how to discuss our concerns without becoming frustrated and angry. Then there are these little people who live with us. We now have three sons, and as you may know, it is easy to put the kids first over yourself and especially your spouse.


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